How many of you remember using the word “tomboy” to describe someone? Tomboy was, and occasionally still is, a term used to describe girls or women that are into more “masculine” clothes or activities. A bit like Sam Puckett from iCarly, Toph from Avatar, or Anzu Mazaki from Yu-Gi-Oh! This word came from the late 80’s and early 90s. It was a term that could be used by girls who didn’t always identify as feminine. It is because of this that I wonder if “tomboy” could be considered a them-they pronoun.
If you all will recall all your old memories from the 90s, we will start this analysis. So, in the 90s people were starting have some more liberal ideas about gender, but them-they was not a widely used or common pronoun yet. People were still having to identify with whatever was between their legs. Whether that was what they were born with, or had transitioned to. When boys were feminine, but were still biologically boys, they were called effeminate and manly girls were called tomboys. This was a rather subtly twisted way of forcing people into gender stereotypes, yet still making them feel like outcasts who didn’t even qualify as a gender. Sometimes, not even a person.
I’m not saying that everyone who acts slightly feminine or masculine identifies as them-they. The spectrum of gender stretches far and wide. You don’t even have to put a label on yourself if you don’t want to, but for those of you who do, you can feel free to identify with they-them. I myself identify as she-her, or they-them. I feel like they-them is a very gender fluid pronoun, and that is what I am. As a kid, I always called myself a tomboy. I loved playing in the dirt, wrestling, and wearing baggy clothes; however I also liked dressing up like a goddamn queen…and playing in the dirt. I still love doing all of that.
In conclusion, I do think that “tomboy” is a they-them pronoun for some. In truth though, who the hell cares? Identify as whoever or whatever you want. This is your world, and your life. So make something of it.
Here is this weeks video. I apologize for the delayed start and bad singing. My editing skills went down the drain with my voice.